THE PROCESS - fsm
How to deal with and respond to stressful situations hits and setbacks:
HOW TO TRANSCEND EXTERNAL SITUATIONS THAT CAUSE CRIPPLING, ONGOING, NEGATIVE EMOTIONAL RESPONSES
· FEEL IT (What does it feel like under the emotion?)
· HONOR THE FEELING
· FIND THE FEAR OR STRESSFUL FEELING AND FACE IT
· DO THE FIRST SMALL TASK TO START TO RELIEVE IT (EAT THE ELEPHANT TECHNIQUE.) (see note *1)
· RECOGNIZE THE TENDENCY TO OVERREACT, DEFER OVEREACTION
· DO NOT ALLOW EMOTIONS TO RULE AND CAUSE OBSESSING
· SEEK TO FULLY UNDERSTAND THE ISSUE
· KNOW THAT THERE IS A COURSE OF ACTION AND CORRECTION FOR EVERYTHING
· USE THE SERENTITY PRAYER AS AN AFFIRMATION (see note*2)
· ASK WHAT DIFFERENCE THIS WILL MAKE FIFTY YEARS FROM NOW
· DON’T JUST REACT, BE PATIENT UNTIL THE TIME IS RIGHT AND THEN BE PROACTIVE
· REALIZE THAT NO MATTER HOW BAD THE INCIDENT OR SITUATION MAY SEEM,
“THIS TOO SHALL PASS.”
· REPEAT ALL OF THE ABOVE AS MANY TIMES AS NECCESSARY
(note*1) Question: How do you eat an elephant? Answer: One bite at a time.
(note*2) " Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. The courage to accept the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. "
Aphorisms and Sayings that are on point and reinforcing as follows:
A. “ One gains strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you must stop and look fear in the face.” Eleanor Roosevelt
B. "If you have a problem that can be solved by money, you DON'T have a problem" author unknown
C. “All that is necessary to break the spell of frustration and inertia is to act as if it is impossible to fail.
Failure is not an option.” Dorethea Brand Hill
D. “ When the impossible has been eliminated all that remains no matter how improbable is possible.”
Sherlock Holmes to Dr. Watson
E. "If you always do what you’ve always done you will always get what you’ve always got." author unknown
F. " Your past does not equal your future." author unknown
How to deal with and respond to stressful situations hits and setbacks:
HOW TO TRANSCEND EXTERNAL SITUATIONS THAT CAUSE CRIPPLING, ONGOING, NEGATIVE EMOTIONAL RESPONSES
· FEEL IT (What does it feel like under the emotion?)
· HONOR THE FEELING
· FIND THE FEAR OR STRESSFUL FEELING AND FACE IT
· DO THE FIRST SMALL TASK TO START TO RELIEVE IT (EAT THE ELEPHANT TECHNIQUE.) (see note *1)
· RECOGNIZE THE TENDENCY TO OVERREACT, DEFER OVEREACTION
· DO NOT ALLOW EMOTIONS TO RULE AND CAUSE OBSESSING
· SEEK TO FULLY UNDERSTAND THE ISSUE
· KNOW THAT THERE IS A COURSE OF ACTION AND CORRECTION FOR EVERYTHING
· USE THE SERENTITY PRAYER AS AN AFFIRMATION (see note*2)
· ASK WHAT DIFFERENCE THIS WILL MAKE FIFTY YEARS FROM NOW
· DON’T JUST REACT, BE PATIENT UNTIL THE TIME IS RIGHT AND THEN BE PROACTIVE
· REALIZE THAT NO MATTER HOW BAD THE INCIDENT OR SITUATION MAY SEEM,
“THIS TOO SHALL PASS.”
· REPEAT ALL OF THE ABOVE AS MANY TIMES AS NECCESSARY
(note*1) Question: How do you eat an elephant? Answer: One bite at a time.
(note*2) " Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change. The courage to accept the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. "
Aphorisms and Sayings that are on point and reinforcing as follows:
A. “ One gains strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you must stop and look fear in the face.” Eleanor Roosevelt
B. "If you have a problem that can be solved by money, you DON'T have a problem" author unknown
C. “All that is necessary to break the spell of frustration and inertia is to act as if it is impossible to fail.
Failure is not an option.” Dorethea Brand Hill
D. “ When the impossible has been eliminated all that remains no matter how improbable is possible.”
Sherlock Holmes to Dr. Watson
E. "If you always do what you’ve always done you will always get what you’ve always got." author unknown
F. " Your past does not equal your future." author unknown
